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No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. –  quote attributed to Eleanor Roosevelt Welcome to the R.O.A.R. Blog! The R.O.A.R. website is dedicated to honest conversation, observations, acceptance, and recognizing and building your personal power. In these blog postings, and forum discussion pages I will share excerpts from my book, and I will post about my experiences. Experiences that …

His Was a Really Good Story, Unfortunately it Just Wasn’t True

A liar begins with making falsehood appear like truth and ends with making truth itself appear like falsehood. – William Shenstone In 2010, I began employment with an organization in Seattle, and within the first few weeks a medium-build,  fair, and handsome (he knew it, and he was) stranger began showing unsolicited, inappropriate, and peculiar attention toward me. Luke’s attentions …

The Calculated Approach

Trust your instincts, intuition doesn’t lie. Oprah Winfrey Luke never really engaged as a normal person would. It was as if he were testing the waters. I found out later that there were at least two other women in the picture, and I also later learned that this multi-prey focus is a classic move of a psychopathic-narcissist. I will admit …

The Question on The Table

The best decisions aren’t made with your mind, but with your instinct. – Lionel Mess In fear of Luke’s expert manipulative and violent nature, while in shock, and in fear, I did not report the crime, and this was a serious misstep in judgment. Luke counted on this. It was at this juncture that I began to lose my personal power. …

An Expert at Grooming

The most confused we ever get is when we try to convince our heads of something our hearts know is a lie.– Karen Morning It happened slowly, and with precision… Luke did not stop drinking in those next few weeks, and because I refused to see him under those circumstances, we spent virtually no time together. It was a smart decision on …

Post-Traumatic Stress Rears Its Ugly Head

Ships don’t sink because of the water around them. They sink because of the water that gets in them. – Unknown. After the attack, when I would see Luke in the workplace, I would experience a rapid heart rate, hypervigilance, adrenaline rushes, feelings of anger and anxiety, and the urge to run away. I now know that this was my …

Hanging with the Bullies

If you are acting like a sheep, do not blame the shepherd. You cannot herd lions! Wake up and roar and you are free! – Papaji Luke fed photos to a female colleague via text that resulted in rumors of destruction of his personal property by me. HR interviewed Luke and those involved in the leak. Luke continued his attempt …